When You're Not Having An Omega Night (Follow Up)
So yesterday I wrote about an unpleasant experience I had at my job on New Year's Day and how I dealt with it. I wanted to share a bit more about good things that came out of it. When something undesirable happens to me, I always try—sometimes successfully, sometimes not—to find the good, the positive, the things to be grateful for, what I can learn from it.
In our break room at work is a huge dry erase board. The HR team writes different fun or interesting questions to give the staff a chance to express ourselves. They are usually themed around what is currently going on. So during Halloween, for example, one question was "What is the scariest movie?" During Thanksgiving, one question read, "What is your favorite food item for Thanksgiving?" Recently during Christmas, the question was "What was the best gift you ever received?" Right now the question says, "What is your New Year's resolution?"
It's quite interesting to see fellow employees' responses, and perhaps I will dedicate a future post to my thoughts about those, but one answer has stuck out to me: "Bring forth good energy & people into my life." This dovetails with a thought I recently heard from an audiobook I am listening to (and will surely write a future post about eventually): "You spend roughly half of your waking hours at work. Work with people you actually like. ... Think about somebody in your professional life who you really liked working with. I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that they were not...a jerky blowhard. ... Listen, life is too short to spend tons of time around people who suck. I'm gonna say that again: Some of you who are listening to this are in jobs—real life, every day—[and] spend more time with those people than your actual family, and 50% of those people you work with suck. Life is too short to spend tons of time around people who suck, my friends." ¹
I don't know how the rest of my team feels about each other, but I can say that I am happy to work closely with a group of individuals who do not suck. There are times when the job is not ideal, and we have all have our little quirks and styles of working, but on the whole, I am happy with the people on my team. I more often than not feel we have each others' backs. And on the night in question, when it was clear I was not having the most pleasant night, I had five of my fellow team members, at separate times, come up to me to offer words of support, encouragement, and assistance simply because they sensed I was not doing well, understood, and cared enough to want to help. That's valuable.
As I stated in my previous post, I also had a manager that night who fully empathized with what I was experiencing and gave me, without judgement, the opportunity to collect myself. Furthermore, that same manager specifically put me in a less stressful position the next night because she wanted me to have better night. And since I was still recovering from Post Traumatic Slide Disorder, I was very grateful. (And by the way, I did have a better night. -Although it also helped that we had 1,000 fewer people-
When I came in last night, several coworkers asked me how I was doing after what I had experienced the night before, which meant a lot to me. As one of them talked with me, I said, "It's a new day. New page. New chapter." And she agreed. And really, that's what it's about. When the crummy happens, we each have the opportunity to start anew. And last night was such a fun night. So much better than the previous one. Fun interactions with guests. I was in a good mood. I was enjoying myself. It was new day, and my team made it all the better.
Life is too short to hang around people who suck. My workplace isn't perfect. There is always room for improvement. But overall, I like my job and the people I work with, and if I'm not currently acting on stage full time, it's a pretty great place to be.
¹ From I Take My Coffee Black by Tyler Merritt, Worthy Publishing