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What I Hope for The New Year (or Why I'm Finally Leaving Facebook)



We may or may not already know each other. If you're a Facebook friend, you know that I am deactivating my account within the next month (hopefully for good this time). And if you've just stumbled across this blog, welcome.

Whoever you are, whatever your reason for being here, I'm glad you're here. Maybe the universe or the fates or God (or whatever you happen to believe in) brought you here just at this time. Or maybe you just came over here from Facebook because I told you I was leaving and this is where you could find me. Either way, I hope you stay. My biggest wish for this blog is that it will not only be a place where I can share my life with you but that it will be a positive and uplifting place that hopefully gives you a different perspective on life and about how we each view the world.

That doesn't mean it will always be sunshine, rainbows, and unicorns. When I feel like posting about something tough, depressing, or sad, I will. But what I wish to engender is an atmosphere of hope, gratitude, compassion, understanding, and love.

At the risk of alienating some of those of you who don't already know me, let me share a few essential things about myself so that you know what you're getting into:

  • My name is Steven. I was born and raised in Utah but currently live in Las Vegas, Nevada, where I have resided for 17 years. I never thought here would be where I would end up, but here I am.

  • I grew up in an LDS (Mormon) family but I am no longer practicing. My relationship with the LDS Church is complicated but not antagonistic. Some of what I feel are my best attributes come from having been raised in that religion. All of my immediate and many of my extended family members are still very active in that faith, and it would be impossible to separate the influence Mormonism has had

  • I'm gay. My husband and I have been married for 13 years now (8 of those years legally). His name is Isaias, and he has made life better. He has made me better.

  • We currently have three cats. We had five, two of whom we lost recently: Jasper in October and Trooper in December. The remaining three are named Blondie (Trooper's daughter), Chaplin, and Grizzabella. They are the closest things to children we are likely to have. We adore them. I love animals in general, but I am definitely a cat person.

  • I am an actor. For many years, I worked full time as an actor, mostly doing live theatre. I worked for theatre companies in California, Nevada, and Utah. I've done a handful of TV commercials and a couple of small films but my career in live theatre is where the brunt of my experience has been. I have a BFA in Acting and Directing from Utah State University and an MFA in Theatre-Performance from UNLV, where I met Isaias (he's why I ended up here in Vegas, by the way). I have also made my living as an acting teacher; an usher (Gatekeeper) and assistant showroom supervisor at the MGM Grand for Cirque du Soleil's ; and currently I work for Meow Wolf at their attraction, Omega Mart.

  • I am more liberal than conservative in my political leanings. While I am a registered Democrat, I am kind of weary of both political parties and have considered just registering as an Independent. I have strong political opinions, but I genuinely strive to keep an open mind.

  • I very much believe in God. And if you don't, that's perfectly fine. I never try to push my spiritual or religious views on anybody else. I try very hard to just love everyone and to treat people as I would hope they would treat me.

  • I am generally an optimistic person, although the last few years have, unfortunately, brought out a more cynical and pessimistic side. But I still believe that most people are good (or are at least trying to be).

  • I love movies, theatre, art, and history. Music is a big part of my life. I love reading--especially biographies and histories because those books allow me to briefly step into the life or skin of another person. Maybe that's what I love about acting so much. I like anything that helps me gain greater understanding, perspective, and empathy for someone else. I'm a huge Stephen Sondheim fan (look him up if you don't know who that is). I am also an enormous Star Wars nerd.

I suppose those are the most important things to know about me for now. You'll learn more as this blog continues.

So why did I even create this blog in the first place? And why is it called "Minding Our Mindset?"

Well, to answer the first question, I was looking for a place where I could express my thoughts, share my views and opinions, and hopefully share some light and love. For a very long time, my platform for doing so has been Facebook. A good portion of my posts there are long form entries, and I don't necessarily feel Facebook is the best platform for those. But the main reason I'm leaving Facebook is because I'm sick of it. It's become an addictive time waster, and many of the things I once liked about Facebook are gone.

I remember when I joined Facebook while I was a grad student at UNLV. I was still trying to hold a mighty death grip on to my preferred platform, MySpace, but it was clear that everyone else was jettisoning MySpace to migrate over to Facebook, and so eventually I caved and joined the crowd. Once upon a time, Facebook was a place where one could connect with friends and stay up to date on their happenings. These days, I feel like the algorithms just give me ads, diatribes, and maybe an occasional piece of news from someone I care about it. It has become an echo chamber and a depressing shell of what it once was. I'm weary of it. These days when I log on, it's out of habit than any joy or satisfaction I get from it.

So I have decided to "cut the cord," so to speak and share my thoughts here instead for both myself and for anybody who wants to keep up to date on my happenings and opinions. I know my sister, for one, will be pleased. Maybe others will too.

As to the second question, why the blog title? Well, I was just trying to come up with a snazzy, catchy name for my blog. Mindset Matters, Minding My Mindset, and Minding Your Mindset were all taken. Why mindset anything at all? Well, as I thought about what I hope this blog will foster and what thoughts I would like to share with the world (however small that world turns out to be), I realized that one thing I have been trying to work on myself is my own mindset: how I see the world and how that perspective increasingly shapes the way I view the world. How do the thoughts I have affect how I feel? I happen to be a believer in the Law of Attraction: What I put out into the world determines what I get back. If I give love, compassion, gratitude, prosperity, and kindness, that is what I will see and get in return. Now does that mean bad things won't happen to me? No. But what it does mean is that it affects my attitude, perspective, and reaction to what happens to me, and I hope to share some of that with you. So therefore, you and I are both Minding Our Mindset together and hopefully making the world a better place both for us and for those whose lives we touch.

This blog will be my journey through life and how I cope and manage. Maybe something I share here will be use to you, too. Some posts will be lighter than others. Some will be deep thoughts; others might be a humorous quip or meme. Whatever shape this blog takes, I just hope that it will lift you up, give you more light, and change your life for the better, however small that change may be. That's my hope for the new year...for all of us.

I'm really glad you're here. Let's go on a great journey together.

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