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The Lightbearers and Soulsuckers

Have you ever had somebody in your life that is so ebullient and full of light that you just crave being around them? They have such a positive energy that when they walk into a room, they just light it up?


I love people like that. It's like I just want to feed off their energy and attitude. I'm not saying these people don't have challenges or bad days, but their overall aura is one that just makes you feel good when you're around them.


I call these people Lightbearers.


I can think of a few people in my life that have or had this quality, and I've been thinking about the qualities in them that I am attracted to.


One of the Lightbearers I was friends with was an actress named Victoria. If I only had one word available to use to describe Victoria, I would say, "light." She was such a joyful, positive soul. I just wanted to be around her. It was like her light made me feel better and happier. Even when she was diagnosed with cancer, which she eventually succumbed to, Vicki handled it with such grace and positivity. I admired that.


Another Lightbearer has been a former Mormon bishop of mine named Joe. He is such a humble, giving man. One of the most kind and compassionate people I know.


Still another is my sister-in-law, Natalee. I love talking with her. She always makes me feel better about life when I do.


Another Lightbearer I have met fairly recently is a coworker of mine. He just exudes brightness and positivity, and I enjoy talking with him.


There are others, but some of the common qualities I notice in these individuals are


  • Humility.

  • Rarely, if ever, say anything bad about other people. I noticed this trait specifically in Victoria and Joe. I can't say that I ever heard either of them say anything negative about another person, and any criticism they may have offered was done in the most delicate, inoffensive way.

  • A spirit of optimism. Even if having a bad day, I feel like these people have a much more positive outlook than a negative one.

  • Full of gratitude. Even when met with challenges or obstacles, these individuals always seemed/seem to find the things to be thankful for.

  • Thinking of others. I feel these people are more interested in the well-being of other people than they are of themselves. They are filled with compassion and thoughtfulness.

  • They don't dwell on past grievances. They seem very tuned to the present and what is, not what was.

  • The joy and happiness they to exude comes from within. They do not rely on external sources for happiness.


These are just some qualities of people I consider Lightbearers.


On the flip side, there are people I don't enjoy being around. For lack of a better word, I call these people Soulsuckers. That's probably not a very nice term, but that's how they make me feel.


The qualities I notice in these people are:


  • Self-absorbed. They only seem to see the world as far as how it relates to them and their problems. They can't see anyone else beyond that.

  • Always complaining. Always. Rarely see the good in anything.

  • Can't find anything to be thankful about.

  • Unkind. Some Soulsuckers' behavior is often rude, childish, and mean-spirited.

  • Troublestarters. It's almost like they thrive on chaos and stirring up trouble. Often they get off on gossip and conflict.

  • They will be happy when.... They think happiness comes from external sources but seem to have difficulty finding internal balance.

  • They are deeply insecure. Some Soulsuckers are super needy, requiring constant validation. It can be exhausting being around them.

  • Highly toxic.


These are just a few common attributes I see.


I wish to be a Lightbearer. I hope I am not a Soulsucker. I can be self-absorbed at times, but I am working on it. But I am thankful both for the example and presence of the Lightbearers in my life.


What about you? Who are the Lightbearers in your life? What do they do or how do they act to make you feel that way? What are you doing in your own life to be a better Lightbearer?





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